In podcast Episode 9 we touch on ways to handle a toxic relationship, but in this blog, we're giving you more detail so that you can handle it with grace and head back onto the path God set before you got diverted. You, like many, may currently be in one and not know how to handle it, but let me tell you, you're on the right track because it all starts with you knowing you're in one.
Simply acknowledging you're in a toxic relationship is step 1. It's commonly said that acknowledgement is the first step in any recovery process, yet the hardest. You need to acknowledge that a toxic relationship is draining, leaving you deflated, taking you out of character and does not feel right. Therefore, this step is essential to be able to move to the next one.
2. Seek Guidance
Seeking advice from trusted people in your life is vital. However, If you do not have a friend or a family member you can trust or feel comfortable talking to; ask a small group ( bible study group) member or one of your pastors. It's essential that during this period you surround yourself with wisdom and voices of reason who will echo Gods words and Godly direction for your life. Believing you can tackle this alone is likely to leave you running in circles not finding a way out of this toxicity but simply going round and round.
3. Applying the Word
The word of God is our daily bread, we can rely on it in any situation and this one is no different. The more you read and memorise the word of God the easier it will be to know the difference between Gods words and the conflicting messages of people. Gods word shines in the darkness and it will open your eyes to reveal the answer you are searching for and the peace you long.
Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path - Psalm 119:105
4. Affirm who you are
Sinach song 'I know who I am' comes to mind as It reminds us that we are walking in power and victory being a child of God, we are favoured. Affirm who you are daily. Create post-it notes and put them on your ceiling or your mirror to see them daily. Remember exactly who God made and His promises for your life which does not include toxic relationships.
Here are a 10 affirmations to get you started.
I am complete in Christ. Colossians 2:10
God’s love for me is great! It reaches to the heavens. Psalm 58:10
I choose to have the same attitude that Jesus had. Philippians 2:5
I am a child of God. 1 John 3:1
The love that God has lavished on me is great! 1 John 3:1
My hope is in the Lord. Psalm 40:7
I am created in the image of God. Genesis 1:27
God is my refuge, strength and help in times of trouble. Psalm 46:1
God reveals his spiritual truths to me by his Spirit. 1 Corinthians 2:13
God is my stronghold in times of trouble. Psalm 9:9
Remember these affirmations build you up to know exactly what God wants for you as His child. Hearing these affirmations give your strength, resilience and a reminder that you are one of a kind and highly favoured. It should drown out any negative voices around you.
This is the moment you need with God to give it all to Him give your worries, anxieties and any confusion.
Matthew 11:28 - Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest.
The Lord will take your burdens and give you His light yoke. Trust that there will be a revelation through prayer.
I pray that these tips help you with handling any toxic relationship or giving someone advice on how to handle it, as it helped me. These steps make it easier to identify and gracefully handle any toxic situation you encounter giving you peace of mind.
Written with love Jojo